All feelings are valid feelings

๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿผ ALL ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿผ FEELINGS ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿผ ARE ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿผ VALID ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿผ FEELINGS

I donโ€™t blame adults who do this. I get it. Itโ€™s how many of us (and definitely our parents) were raised. But just because thatโ€™s the way itโ€™s always been, does not make it right.

What are we teaching children by downplaying the value of their emotions?

๐Ÿ‘‰๐Ÿผ ๐˜›๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ค๐˜ข๐˜ถ๐˜ด๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ง ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ช๐˜ณ ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฐ๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ ๐˜ช๐˜ด ๐˜ถ๐˜ฏ๐˜ช๐˜ฎ๐˜ฑ๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ๐˜ต๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ต
๐Ÿ‘‰๐Ÿผ ๐˜Œ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฐ๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ ๐˜ฎ๐˜ข๐˜ฌ๐˜ฆ๐˜ด ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ข๐˜ฅ๐˜ถ๐˜ญ๐˜ต ๐˜ถ๐˜ฏ๐˜ค๐˜ฐ๐˜ฎ๐˜ง๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ๐˜ต๐˜ข๐˜ฃ๐˜ญ๐˜ฆ (๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ค๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜ถ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ด๐˜ฑ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ ๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ฎ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ธ๐˜ช๐˜ต๐˜ฉ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ข๐˜ฅ๐˜ถ๐˜ญ๐˜ต, ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ค๐˜ฉ๐˜ช๐˜ญ๐˜ฅโ€™๐˜ด ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฐ๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ๐˜ข๐˜ญ ๐˜ฆ๐˜น๐˜ฑ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ๐˜ด๐˜ด๐˜ช๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ ๐˜ฎ๐˜ถ๐˜ด๐˜ต ๐˜ค๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜จ๐˜ฆ)

We need to collectively be better at recognizing that our children deserve space for healthy emotional expression. If we donโ€™t make space for this, we are collectively responsible for perpetuating the cycle of raising adults who lack emotional intelligence.

So what does this look like?

โœ”๏ธValidate feelings and allow the expression of those feelings (even if it seems trivial, unimportant or downright ridiculous to you as an adult)
โœ”๏ธ Empathize with the emotion
โœ”๏ธ Provide support
โŒ Do not rationalize away the feelings
โŒ Do not suggest that happier emotions are more desirable or are a better use of their time
โŒ Do not use distraction to move your child away from working through their feelings

โœจ Have you ever had to intervene when another person was telling your child how they should or shouldnโ€™t feel? Tell me below!

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