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What is the 🔑 to baby sleep? PATIENCE AND RESP

What is the 🔑 to baby sleep?

PATIENCE AND RESPONSIVENESS, NOT SEPARATION

PATIENCE:
✨ Stay as calm and regulated as possible, which allows your child to co-regulate with you (a calm baby is a baby more likely to go to sleep and stay asleep)
✨ Proximity is the biological norm - babies are not built to be separated from their primary caregiver, and especially so during the first year of life. Be patient with their development, and their sleep will continue to improve
✨ Consider your child’s temperament - changing associations takes time, there are no quick fixes (and if anyone promises you that there are, run 🏃🏻‍♀️🏃🏻‍♀️ for the hills)

RESPONSIVENESS:
✨ Babies are not capable of “self soothing”, despite what you may have heard. If your baby is upset, they need your help to calm down
✨ Being present while your baby falls asleep teaches them that they can rely on you. This dependence is the natural precursor that makes room for independent sleep, when they are ready
✨ Responsiveness is not the antithesis of change. You can do both at the same time: make changes around how/where/with whom your baby falls asleep, all the while being supportive and present

Sometimes, it’s hard to stay patient. Sleep training can seem like the quick fix you’re looking for. But, putting in the work and consistency of responding to your child will pay off tenfold.

⚠️ Beware the quick fixes! If you wouldn’t buy into a “get rich quick” scheme, fall prey to fad diets that promise quick results, or pay for followers to grow your Instagram, resist the urge to use that same approach with your baby.

👉🏼 Have you considered sleep training? If you decided not to go through with it, what made your decision?
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Hi, I’m Cayla. I’m a family sleep coach dedicated to helping clients from infancy through adulthood to go from tired and stressed to rested and confident without any sleep training. If you need a better night’s sleep, I can help!
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Words matter. Nuance matters. It’s time we hold

Words matter. Nuance matters. It’s time we hold sleep trainers accountable - not only for the way they speak to parents, but also the way they treat babies.

So let’s drop the misnomers that make sleep training sound pleasant and inviting, because unless we call it what it really is, it’s just lipstick on a pig.
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Despite popular opinion amongst sleep trainers, nu

Despite popular opinion amongst sleep trainers, nursing to sleep is ✨ not ✨ a bad a habit.

If you’re unsure of nursing to sleep is right for your family, ask yourself these questions:

👉🏼 Does nursing to sleep work for your baby?
👉🏼 Does nursing to sleep work for you?
👉🏼 Is there a different sleep association that works better, or is nursing your most reliable association?

If nursing offers the path of least resistance to get the most sleep, then go ahead and continue nursing to sleep. If it doesn’t work or you’re not longer comfortable with it, that’s when we layer in new associations to shift gently away from nursing to sleep.

Are you struggling with whether or not to continue nursing to sleep? Follow the link in my bio to book your free discovery call to chat about how I can help you and your family 💕
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I said what I said, and here’s why: Sleep train

I said what I said, and here’s why:

Sleep training is entrenched in the idea that in order to improve sleep, a parent must use separation to “teach” their child to be “independent”, “self soothe”, “sleep learn” etc.

But at its core, parenting is about tuning into our biological instincts to care for our young.

Sleep training entirely undermines this bond between parent and child, and asks parents to put their faith in pre-prescribed methods that know nothing about a child’s needs as an individual.

It neglects the incredibly important fact that children are indeed, humans, and not animals that can be trained.

The sleep training industry profits from selling the idea that ignoring our instincts is the key to better sleep. But at what cost? Our connection with our children? Their trust in us? We can't let that happen.

Responsive parenting, on the other hand, recognizes that babies and children have their own unique needs and emotions. It's about tuning in, understanding, and meeting those needs with love and compassion.

It encourages us to trust our instincts as parents. Our intuition is a powerful tool that guides us towards the best choices for our children's well-being.

Saying no to sleep training doesn’t mean saying yes to sleepless nights. It means reclaiming our power as parents and embracing responsiveness. It means prioritizing building a loving and secure relationship with our children while nurturing their sleep needs and meeting our needs, too.

If you want to discover gentle approaches to better sleep, follow for evidence-based information, tips, and support, all without any sleep training.

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Hi, I’m Cayla — your responsive sleep bestie.

Hi, I’m Cayla — your responsive sleep bestie.
Yes, now in action figure form. Complete with an iPhone, sleep journal, lavender spray… and zero sleep training nonsense.

It’s been a while since I reintroduced myself, and let’s be real — the sleep space has only gotten noisier. Between contradictory advice, shamey reels, and sleep consultants promising 12-hour stretches by any means necessary… it’s a lot.

I’ve been there. As a mom of 3, I once bought into it too. We sleep trained my first at 6 months — and I still regret it. I thought I was doing what I should. What everyone said was normal. But deep down, it didn’t feel right. So I started asking different questions — and I’ve spent the past decade helping other parents do the same.

Here’s what you can always expect around here:
✨ Sleep support rooted in connection, not control
✨ Attachment-based strategies, never separation
✨ Practical tools for real parents in real life
✨ A judgment-free community where you’re the expert on your child
✨ And maybe a few laughs, because parenting is hard and we need each other

Whether you’re deep in the 4-month fog, struggling through toddler bedtime chaos, or just tired of advice that doesn’t align with your values — I’m so glad you’re here.

Welcome to Sleeping Beauties. We don’t train babies — we support families.

If you’re new here, drop a “hi” below and let me know how old your little one is — or just say what’s keeping you up at night.

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The biggest mistake in western childcare has likel

The biggest mistake in western childcare has likely had a direct effect on you - if not as a parent, then likely as a child yourself.

For far too long, we’ve been operating as a society under the expectation that children should be seen and not heard; that their behaviour should accommodate our needs; and that comfort and connection were a baby’s way of manipulating a caregiver into putting a baby’s needs ahead of their own.

The problem, though, is that children are MEANT to cry; children are BUILT to connect; and parents are WIRED to respond.

Its the reason that so many parents report that sleep training was “the hardest thing” they’ve ever done, because leaving a child to cry instead of responding goes against every fibre of our biological being (to say nothing of the fact that it isn’t even necessary).

Sleep training culture (and authoritarian parenting, if we extrapolate more widely) does more than just pressure parents into leaving their babies to cry. Sleep training culture has manipulated us into believing that normal infant sleep isn’t normal.

It has set expectations that the average baby (and honestly, the average parent) can’t live up to.

To see change in a child’s sleep without sleep training, we have to find a middle ground between a child’s needs and a parent’s needs.

That starts by understanding WHAT they can do, HOW they can do it, and WHY they likely can’t live up to the rules set out by sleep trainers.

Want to learn more? Comment INFANT GUIDE and I will dm you my free Guide to Normal Infant Sleep to get you started!
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