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As a holistic sleep specialist, parent coach, and mom of three, I’ve had countless conversations with parents who feel stuck — stuck rocking, feeding, holding, or shushing their child to sleep and believing they’ve missed the window to change things.
And every time I hear that fear — “Maybe it’s too late… maybe I’ve created a bad habit…” — I stop them and say the same thing:
It is never too late to make a change.
One of the most harmful myths the sleep training industry continues to spread is the idea that if you don’t sleep train early, you’ll be trapped in your current sleep situation forever. But this simply isn’t true — not developmentally, not emotionally, and not from a neuroscience perspective.
So, why does this narrative persist?
Because as children grow older, it becomes harder — for both the child and the parent — to use separation-based tactics like closing the door and walking away. When a child can communicate, cry out, and express their distress, the emotional toll is real. And the truth is, no one wants to ignore their child’s cries, but many parents feel they have no other option.
That’s where I come in.
I help parents find their way to better sleep without sleep training, without ignoring their instincts, and without forcing independence before a child is developmentally ready.
One of the biggest issues with mainstream sleep advice is that it’s rooted in outdated beliefs about what “normal” sleep looks like. It’s still widely taught that babies and toddlers should be sleeping through the night at just a few months old. But in reality, it’s completely normal for children to wake frequently well into the toddler and preschool years.
It’s also biologically normal for children to crave connection, closeness, and reassurance from the people they trust the most. Think about it — when you were a child, didn’t you find nighttime separation difficult too?
Whether your child is room-sharing, bed-sharing, or has been nursing to sleep for years, you are not behind. Your child is not broken. And you certainly haven’t missed your chance.
Responsive sleep support is about finding a rhythm that works for both parent and child — one that honours attachment, builds trust, and introduces boundaries in a developmentally respectful way.
You deserve rest. Your child deserves to feel safe while experimenting with sleeping more independently. And there is absolutely a way to meet both of those needs without resorting to cry-it-out methods.
If this speaks to you — if you’re ready to make changes that feel aligned with your values and your child’s emotional needs — I’d love to support you on that journey.
Want to learn more about responsive, attachment-based sleep support?
Book a free discovery call with me or explore my holistic sleep services today.
