Being a parent is wonderful and rewarding and beautiful… but it can also sometimes be a downright sh!tshow.
I had a conversation this morning with a client about the fact that all she hears about from her friends are the babies who sleep well. The parents who seemed like they had it all figured out were the ones sharing, but in reality, these parents are the minority.
The parents who are struggling – whose babies are up multiple times a night, who can’t find time to eat a meal, let alone clean the house, who feel like they are struggling to keep their heads above water – those parents are the norm. The problem is, we don’t normalize talking about the challenging parts of parenting.
Often, when parents express their struggle, they are met with comments like, “how can you get mad at that cute little face?!”, “you should be happy you have a healthy and happy baby”, and “oh in my day…”.
This narrative is not helping anyone.
It’s okay to struggle and to express that struggle, whether you’re asking for help or just venting.
It’s okay to feel like you have it all together on some days, and feel like you’re falling apart on others.
It’s okay to enjoy some parts of parenthood, and dislike other parts.
To quote my husband’s favourite reality star, @kimkardashian, “There’s days where I feel like I know it all. And then I wake up the next morning, and I’m like, wait – none of that makes sense.”
💙 Let’s normalize the days that are sh!tty – tell me about your biggest struggle right now!
