Think back to a time in your childhood, or even your adult life, when you lost someone or something that held a great deal of worth in your life.
Separation from that person or thing felt genuinely awful, didn’t it?
Now imagine if someone told you that they had to separate your from that person or item to teach you how to cope with life without them, so that you could learn to soothe yourself without that support.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Sounds pretty crazy, right?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Now imagine experiencing that same situation as a baby, whose only security in the world is the people to whom they are most attached. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
What good can come from attempting to teach a baby a “valuable lesson” in “self soothing”?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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The answer, in a nutshell, is nothing. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Babies are not being spoiled by being close to their primary caregiver. They are not making a sucker out of you, and they do not have you wrapped around their finger.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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They are being made to feel accepted, secure, and safe.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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And when it comes down to it, isn’t that what we all want for our children?
