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I’m here to normalize đ—»đ—Œđ—żđ—ș𝗼đ—č infant sleep

When I was a first time mom, the parenting landscape looked a lot different than it does today. Responsive parenting was not mainstream, and there was a lot of pressure to follow certain ‘rules’. When my baby was 6 months old, we did the only thing we were told we could do about our “sleep troubles”: we sleep trained.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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We painstakingly searched for someone who would fit our parenting style, and found a sleep consultant who seemed the least aggressive of all the ones we spoke with (the holistic world of sleep – and coaches like me today – literally weren’t a thing). Her methods were, in short, a wolf in sheep’s clothing, and though we asked for a gentle approach, what we were actually presented with was anything but.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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These quotes are a snippet of her advice – which she suggested implementing at 6 months of age – regarding night weaning. Night weaning wasn’t presented as a choice, but rather a necessary part of our sleep plan. Without it, she couldn’t ensure ‘success’.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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On the first night of implementing this, I left my husband and our crying baby home alone. My husband continually texted me throughout the evening as our baby screamed, and I stayed out so that I wouldn’t “cave” and feed her before midnight, which was the arbitrary time at which a feed was allowed. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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I came home around 11pm, and she had been screaming for hours. Just thinking about it breaks my heart. My husband was so stressed from it all that he insisted I feed her to make it stop. Needless to say, as soon as I calmed her and fed her, she went right to sleep (SPOILER ALERT: she was legitimately hungry). ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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đŸ‘đŸœ THIS đŸ‘đŸœSH*T đŸ‘đŸœ NEEDS đŸ‘đŸœ TO đŸ‘đŸœ STOP. I’m here to normalize đ—»đ—Œđ—żđ—ș𝗼đ—č infant sleep, and I hope you’re here for it, too.

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