Sleep habits

I canโ€™t go to bed without my skincare routine. Or my pillow. And often, some sort of mindful meditation in the dark. Oh, and a kiss goodnight from my husband. Who, as it happens, needs to be in bed with me, or else we both have a really tough time falling asleep.

Anyone want to tell me that I have to stop these terrible habits?

Are these crutches that I need to work on removing for my own good?

The answer is no. These are all completely reasonable and healthy sleep associations. And yet, we expect children to go to sleep independently, with no associations to speak of.

Nursing to sleep? ๐˜๐˜ฆ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ฆ๐˜ข๐˜ณ๐˜ญ๐˜ช๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ณ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜ฆ.
Is motion soothing? ๐˜‰๐˜ฆ๐˜ต๐˜ต๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ ๐˜ด๐˜ต๐˜ฐ๐˜ฑ ๐˜ณ๐˜ฐ๐˜ค๐˜ฌ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ ๐˜ฃ๐˜ฆ๐˜ง๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ช๐˜ตโ€™๐˜ด ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ๐˜ฐ ๐˜ญ๐˜ข๐˜ต๐˜ฆ.
Need mom to stay in the room? ๐˜‹๐˜ฐ ๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ฎ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ค๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ค๐˜ฌ๐˜ด.
Checking in creating more difficulty? ๐˜‰๐˜ฆ๐˜ต๐˜ต๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ ๐˜ด๐˜ธ๐˜ช๐˜ต๐˜ค๐˜ฉ ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ง๐˜ถ๐˜ญ๐˜ญ ๐˜ฆ๐˜น๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜ค๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ.

We have cultivated a society that sets highly unrealistic expectations: for babies, for school aged kids, for adults.

It’s time we collectively support parents to trust their instincts, and leave behind the garbage that is sleep training.

Because thatโ€™s what this type of advice is: garbage. Sleep associations are not negative. They are not crutches or bad habits. There is absolutely zero evidence to suggest any such associations are in any way detrimental or harmful.

Iโ€™ve said it before and Iโ€™ll say it again –

If feeding to sleep works for you and your child – ๐—ด๐—ผ ๐—ณ๐—ผ๐—ฟ ๐—ถ๐˜.
If rocking, bouncing or holding works for you and your child – ๐—ด๐—ผ ๐—ณ๐—ผ๐—ฟ ๐—ถ๐˜.
If shushing, patting, holding hands or otherwise supporting works for you and your child – ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐—ฑ๐—ผ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚.

You donโ€™t need to change whatโ€™s working today out of fear of what may come tomorrow.

๐Ÿ‘‰๐Ÿฝ Letโ€™s normalize sleep associations! So tell me below – what are YOUR sleep associations?

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