What to say instead of ‘don’t cry’

As many millennial parents can attest, the authoritarian parenting of our childhood has made it difficult for many of us to regulate our own emotions and respond in a supportive and nurturing way to our children’s emotions. Just think of how easily triggered we are by our children’s tantrums, and even further, their resistance when we ask for something to be done? Tell me you were expected to be ‘seen and not heard’ as a child without telling me